Thursday, March 12, 2009

Dear Anonymous Commenter

"Just finish school." Is the worst advice I've ever heard. Easier said than done. I know the best solution would be to finish school. Duh. I'm looking for advice on how to do it.

You don't go to school to get brains. You go to school to get a piece of paper that says you're worth more than someone else. I have brains.

I guarantee that every hug and kiss I get from my son means more to me than that piece of paper that means so much to the rest of the world. I hope you're blog hopping. If I've ever met you in person, please let me know so I will never let you near my child.

Being a MOTHER is the most important thing I could ever be. If that means a college degree is the only way my husband and I can provide a nice home for our son all have all three of us be home at the same time more than a few hours a week, then that's what I'll do. I just wish I didn't have to.


Casey Moes said...

I loved you last post. Give 'em Hell Lori! I agree with you ... family is SUPER important.

~*Jen*~ said...

Why is it that people who post the most stupid comments are the ones who do them anonymously? Personally, I think it's because they know what they have to say is retarted and therfore don't want to put a name to the statement. Yeah, lame.

~AnnaMarie~ said...

Unbelievable. This is what happens when people put babies before brains? Are you kidding me? Anonymous, if you are a parent, I am so sorry for your children. I would hate to be the child of a parent who doesn't see the value of their own child. I have a college education. My husband has a college education. And we have 4 children who are each far more important than any college degree. So to you, I say, while you "might" have your degree, you could surely use some classes on social skills, of which you are sorely lacking. If you don't have children, please keep it that way. Every child deserves a parent far less selfish and rude than you.

CrisB said...


Anonymous said...

Maybe your husband should get his degree since being home with your son is important to you. He should be the primary bread winner. If people actually thought about these things before getting knocked up, because that's the only reason we get married to have sex and have babies, the world would be a much saner place.

Loots said...

Hey STUPID. Just because something is easy for you, it doesn't mean it's easy for someone else. My husband is a very intelligent man. He just really struggles when it comes to school. Even in high school when he wasn't married, wasn't having sex, and wasn't having kids. I can't explain it, I just know it's true.

If one thing worked for everyone, the world would be a much easier place.

~AnnaMarie~ said...

Dear Anonymous,

I dont know anything about your religion. I do, however, know what Lori's beliefs are, and what she has chosen to do goes right along with those beliefs. I would ask you, why you would chastise someone for following what they believe to be right, whether you agree with it or not?

I'm going to assume that you have a different set of beliefs and do not belong to the same church that she and I do, based on what the things you have said. You don't have to agree with these things, but for us, they have brought us happiness and fulfillment. Don't mistake Lori's struggle for balance as a statement of unhappiness, because that would be a gross misinterpretation.

"Some ask the question 'Shouldn’t we get our education first and then have our family?' I know of no scriptures or authorities,' admonishes President Kimball, 'which authorize young wives to delay their families. … Young married couples can make their way and reach their educational heights, if they are determined.” (Ensign, Feb. 1975, p. 4.)

and further...

Mothers Who Know
Julie B. Beck
Relief Society General President

"Mothers who know desire to bear children. Whereas in many cultures in the world children are “becoming less valued,” in the culture of the gospel we still believe in having children. Prophets, seers, and revelators who were sustained at this conference have declared that “God’s commandment for His children to multiply and replenish the earth remains in force. President Ezra Taft Benson taught that young couples should not postpone having children and that “in the eternal perspective, children—not possessions, not position, not prestige—are our greatest jewels.”

Assuming you are not a member of our church, you may think this is a ridiculous way to do things. Go ahead and think that. We're fine with it. But for us, we have found happiness and fulfillment in doing things this way. It might be a struggle at times. It might be more difficult this way, and for those who like to take the easy way out, this probably isn't the way to go. But for us, it works. I assure you that in my own life, we have been extremely blessed in both our family and financial life, as a result of doing things the way we believe the Lord meant us to. And at the end of the road, we have have our beautiful family, our education, and a life to be proud of.

If you truly believe that we are in err living this way, we would be happy to look at your blog, see your life, and decide if maybe your point of view is indeed valid, you just have to give us that opportunity. Perhaps we will see how much superior your chosen path is to our meager lives...

Annette said...

Hey Anonymous---

MRS. Rupe is a WOMAN who choose to get married and THEN have family. Your comments are not only rude in general (regardless of a person's situation) but also unapplicable to Mrs. Rupe's current situation. You are acting like she is a young, single woman who couldn't keep her pants on---when she is a married woman w/ a child who simply decided to get an education to better herself. It is most common in the 21st century, due to the economic challenges and competive job markets for BOTH spouses to get an education, bring an income into the home and share all responsibilities. It is near impossible to do this in any other manner.

If you do not have something constructive and HELPFUL to say, DO NOT COMMENT.